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What do you want most in all the world? More money, a new car stereo, a vacation? To lose ten pounds, to get home from work in time to see your favorite sitcom? Or is it something more than that, something harder to define?

Maybe you've given up on ever realizing your true dreams, and you settle for smaller things because they, at least, seem possible. Maybe it never occured to you to ask yourself if the goals you've been pursuing really are what you want most. Perhaps, like many people, you feel as if you are being compelled to do things, by ‘market’ or other forces, as if your life is not your own. How often do you feel like that?

Here's a wild idea: everything you do in your life, you should do because you want to do it, more than anything else in the world. And when you make plans, you should aim for the most exciting, glorious life you could imagine, not just for conventional "success" or "security," the consolation prizes of the tired and hopeless. What could be more radical than choosing your actions according to how enjoyable they are, rather than how moral, how responsible, how socially acceptable they seem, or even how much business sense they may seem to make? And yet, what else really makes sense? Haven't we tried serving every master but our own wishes, fighting for every cause except ourselves? Where has that gotten us?

Pursuing your desires doesn't just mean blindly following your impulses wherever they lead. It means, first, discovering what you really want…weeding through your desires and deciding which are real and which are illusory, which are stronger and which are weaker, which will bring you the most happiness in the end. It means reconstructing yourself and your life so that you can pursue as many of your desires as possible (since there is no guarantee that all of them can be simultaneously achieved—most of us find ourselves always pulled in different directions by competing impulses and longings)…it means prioritizing and analyzing your desires themselves. Maybe what you want is to feel better about yourself…is getting your nails done the answer, or could that impulse be a part of your insecurities? Perhaps you love the countryside; is it enough for you to buy a few acres of it and enjoy that, while the rest of the world is slowly wrapped in concrete?

Pursuing your desires also means reconstructing our society. Each of us is the product of the world we live in; and yet, this world is itself the product of our own efforts. To reconstruct yourself and your life, you must reconstruct the world that constructs and affects you, and for this you will need everyone else's help. If we want to pursue happiness, we should take responsibility for the world, or community we are creating, and together make sure that it will be one that creates happiness in us. But won't doing whatever we want pit us against each other? No, it will force us to work together. For the greatest, most ambitious endeavors cannot be carried through alone; they require the participation of other people, even of whole societies. Most of us want community, friendship, to feel safe and free with others more than almost anything else; we need each other to achieve all these things. To create a community in which each of us can live life to the fullest, we must make it possible for all of us to pursue our dreams and be free and creative. Otherwise we're cheating ourselves of each other's potential, as well as our own. That's the secret that the very unambitious "me generation" missed: past a certain point, greed and generosity intersect.

And yes, this will be hard, especially at first. Nothing is more difficult than pushing yourself to always be honest with yourself, demanding the most from yourself and from every day of your life. It will put us at odds with the existing order, that's for sure. But it's a struggle worth fighting if any is. A contest of the vast potential that each of us has, and the vaster potential that we all could have together, against everything in this world that is pointless, petty, ugly...

The alternative, of course, is to settle for what we have today, and never question whether there could be more to life.

Ultimately, happiness doesn't come from just getting what you want and having it, but rather from the process of seeking it…from the free pursuit of your desires and ambitions. It's that feeling of excitement and weightlessness you experience when you feel free to do and be whatever you want, when life becomes a joyous, ever-changing dance. After centuries of dull servitude to responsibility, propriety, and necessity, we're not used to expressing and following our dreams, it’s probably about time to learn how.

Think back to the most important day of your life, the day you first discovered love or music or adventure... when a thousand new doors opened, and the world seemed bigger than it ever had before, and suddenly everything was possible…

Why can't every day feel like that?

Well, for one thing, we don't exactly live in a society that is designed to help us discern and pursue our hearts' desires, do we? Whatever the rhetoric about "freedom and the pursuit of happiness" may suggest, our society is filled to the point of absurdity with distractions and restrictions. We're all so busy struggling to keep up that it's hard to even remember our dreams, let alone chase after them. And each of us feels so powerless that it's equally hard to keep in mind that this world we live in is entirely the result of our own efforts…it is our work that has made it this way. Our species has completely transformed the planet. Is this the best of all possible worlds we have built?

If it's not, why don't we stop building it, and try to invent new ways of living and working together, so we can construct another, better world, that will be more pleasurable for all of us. For what should we work towards, if not pleasure and joy?

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Comment by Edward Carleton Camp on April 29, 2014 at 8:44am

yo Vladimir,

     I live on a small island off the coast of Honduras because I've had evolving goals requiring I do so since I was 17.  I'm 54 now AND my dad sends me money! If you are destined to do something you will be driven to do it and cheer leading, especially when fueled by love for Satan or just being a lick spittle,  might not get ya there, depending on your goal.  Pompous enough for ya? with out ever addressing the real problem, world banks, and having the gaul to put it off on other people.  Everyone will chase their dreams given a chance 


Comment by Jeremiah Robinson on April 28, 2014 at 12:04am

For a little pushback, I just read a book called So good they can't ignore you - why skills trump passion in the que...  It's one of those many books that really could have been an article, but it does makes a compelling case that, over time, you tend to enjoy the things that you're both good at and that are desired by others (i.e. marketable).  This has been my experience as well.

Comment by Vlad Jovanovic on April 27, 2013 at 3:34pm

Thanks guys

Comment by Kent Evans on April 23, 2013 at 6:09pm

Good post Vlad.

When seeking the reasons for the ways of people, look no farther than ones self. For all the answers lie in there then.

Comment by Farcry305 on April 23, 2013 at 5:40pm

Fo sho ! Heard that

Comment by Bob Campbell on December 15, 2012 at 9:06am

Very inspiring,  enjoy your journey, because the destination may not be where you think it is.

Comment by Chris Smith on December 3, 2012 at 12:08am

"You can't always get what you want
But if you try sometimes well you might find
You get what you need"

Mick Jagger 1969

Comment by Chris Carr on November 28, 2012 at 4:19pm

A great inspirational read as always. Thanks.

I believe the hardest part of choosing to go forward with a life like this, or understanding why anyone would find it appealing is that so many of us let others define "success" and "security". For two characteristics we hold so highly why do so many of us let others define it for us? (I know there is a simple psychological answer to this, but you'd think we are smart enough to know we are better than that.)

I believe once we are willing to accept that success and security are simply a matter of perspective, we start to change. Suddenly we stop dreaming about fantasy and start dreaming about reality. Hopefully more and more of us (humans) can make those dreams a reality.

Vlad Wrote:
...And when you make plans, you should aim for the most exciting, glorious life you could imagine, not just for conventional "success" or "security," the consolation prizes of the tired and hopeless...

Comment by Raychel A Watkins on November 25, 2012 at 10:49am

AMEN BROTHER. I think you nailed it.  We can't always have everything we want and we shouldn't get everything we think we want but we can choose what we want most and seek after it with all our heart and souls.  We have to ask ourselves if we don't get what we want Why?  Is it because we were stopped by people saying we couldn't do it.  Never let anyone persuade you from what you really want.  We sometimes don't have what we want because we hear people say it is impossible.  You can not say that until YOU have tried. So very much is possible if we just sart off with a passion and keep on walking.  I always tell people that years ago that I started college at 35.  I started down the road to get a degree in the profession I work in now.  The road I started down was impossible to get to the end.  There was so muchin my road.  I was a single mom with 2 kids, with a full time job, couldn't work at night and go to school in day time, the coursces I needed were always being cancelled, and I had no money.  Well I made it down that impossible road and got a Masters degree to boot and never borrowed a dollar.  It took 15 years of taking wrong left turns, having to retrace my steps but I made it.  It was well worth my time and effort.  It was successful because of my passion for my goal.  I never let impossible enter my mind.  Now I can support my crazy passion for aquaponics which is as strong as my desire for an education.  Just make your goal a worthy one and start down that road and smell the flowers and listen to the birds along the way.

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